Put Your Identity in Christ- Beautiful Life Week 6
- Kelly Kirstein
- Jul 31
- 7 min read
What Does Identity In Christ Even Mean?
It's Just...Seeing Yourself the Way God Sees You
When we talk about “identity in Christ,” it can feel like one of those church phrases that sounds good but doesn’t always connect in real life. What does it actually mean to put your identity in Christ?
Think about it this way: God called you out of darkness into His marvelous light (1 Peter 2:9). Why? So you could see yourself clearly, not through the filter of social media, not through the lens of comparison, and not through the standards of the world, but the way He sees you. When you know who you are in Christ, you live free.
The danger comes when we start letting the wrong things define us. Talents, money, grades, popularity, appearance—none of these are bad, but they were never meant to be the foundation of your worth. When we let them become our identity, we end up on a rollercoaster of highs and lows, constantly comparing ourselves to others. Comparison is a trap that steals joy and blinds us to the unique gifts God has placed in us.
Instead, God invites us to see ourselves as He does: loved, chosen, and created with intention. He gives us gifts not so we can compete, but so we can serve Him with a grateful heart.
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Let's Do This Together: pgs. 55-63
This week, we’re going to press pause on comparison and competition. Instead, we’ll focus on recognizing the unique gifts God has given us and remembering that our true identity isn’t in what we do—it’s in who we belong to.
Here’s the truth: You can trust that God has created you with great value to allow you to do good things in this world. By choosing to connect with his heart and plans for you, you can be saturated with light and all the qualities of his kingdom.
How do you you begin? You already have!
Take time this week to lean into His Word and let it saturate your heart. Remind yourself that you are more than your achievements, your struggles, or your insecurities. You are His child.
Additional Notes & Thoughts: pg. 63
When you think about your identity, what are the first words that come to mind? Do they come from God or from the world?
What are some things you’ve been tempted to let define you (beauty, grades, friendships, social media likes, sports, etc.)? How have those things made you feel?
What gifts or talents has God given you? How can you use them to serve Him and others with a grateful heart instead of falling into comparison?
How might your life look different if you fully believed that your worth comes only from the one who created you?
Mental Health Minute:
Week 6: Unload (pg. 86)
1. Start Here. Hebrews 11:6 ESV
Take a deep breath. This week is about believing that God is who He says He is and that what He says about you matters more than what anyone else says.
2. Things I'm Grateful For
Write some phrases that God might use to describe you, including the gifts and talents He gave you.
3. Things to Work On In what ways do you compare yourself to other people?
4. Things I'm Proud Of
List ways you have chosen to do things God's way instead of people pleasing. How have you been able to cheer someone on rather than compete with them?
5. Doodle Space
Draw something that represents who you are to Jesus. Maybe a bright light, jewel, or warrior. Ask Holy Spirit to help you. What pictures come to mind?
6. Things to Let Go Of
Hand off to Jesus the harsh thoughts you have about yourself or hurts that seem to define you.
7. Prayers from the Heart
Write a prayer that thanks God for always seeing the best in you, even when you mess us. Share the things deep in your heart.
Final Thoughts
Living with your identity rooted in Christ doesn’t mean you stop caring about your dreams, talents, or goals. It simply means you understand they don’t define you.
Let His truth fill your heart and mind. He sees you as loved, chosen, and wonderfully made.
Comparison will always try to pull you back into darkness and chaos, but Christ has already called you into light. In Him, you can walk confidently, use your gifts with joy, and live free from the trap of needing the world’s approval.
This week, let’s challenge ourselves to stop looking sideways at others and start looking up to the One who made us and knows us best.
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Faithful Chicks Podcast Script
Theme: Seeing Yourself the Way God Sees You
Opening (1 minute)Hey girls, welcome back to the Faithful Chicks Podcast. I’m so glad you pressed play today, because this episode is one that every single one of us needs to hear. We’re going to talk about how you see yourself—and more importantly, how God sees you.
Because here’s the truth: most of us live way below who we were made to be. We settle. We compare. We believe lies about ourselves that hold us back. But when you step into God’s light, you start to see clearly—and the girl you see looking back at you is way more valuable than you realize.
So let’s dig in.
Part 1: The Problem (2 minutes)Let me ask you this: how do you usually describe yourself? Be honest. Do the first words that pop into your head sound more like “not enough,” “average,” or “too much”?
For a lot of us, the way we see ourselves has been shaped by people’s opinions, what culture says, or even the mistakes we’ve made. Maybe a friend once left you out, and now you feel unwanted. Maybe your parents fight all the time, and you feel like you don’t matter. Maybe you scroll TikTok and think, “If only I looked like her, then I’d feel confident.”
Comparison is exhausting. It’s like chasing something you’ll never catch. And here’s the trap: the more we compare, the more we start to believe that our value comes from things like beauty, grades, sports, popularity, or relationships.
And when those things fall apart, so does our confidence.
Sometimes, instead of facing that pain, girls look for ways to cover it up—drinking at parties, trying drugs, hooking up with guys—because it gives a quick high, a temporary distraction. But the truth is, those choices don’t heal you. They hurt you. They don’t lift you up. They pull you down even farther from the girl you were made to be.
Part 2: God’s Better Way (2 minutes)But here’s the good news: that’s not the life God designed for you.
Listen to this—Psalm 139:14 says, “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” That means God didn’t just throw you together. He thought through every detail of you on purpose.
1 Peter 2:9 says you are “chosen.” Not overlooked. Not second best. Chosen.
Romans 8:38-39 reminds us that nothing—no mistake, no insecurity, no failure—can separate you from God’s love.
When you choose to follow Jesus, it’s like stepping out of the dark into light. Suddenly, you see yourself the way God always has. Not as broken. Not as unworthy. But as loved, chosen, and valuable.
That’s the foundation. And when you live from that foundation, the pressure to prove yourself or compete with others starts to lose its power.
Part 3: Living in the Light (2–3 minutes)Now, I want you to imagine this: you’re in a dark room. There’s no mirror, no window, nothing. You’re stumbling around, trying to figure out who you are. You bump into things, you trip, and you pick up random labels along the way. Someone says, “You’re not pretty enough.” Another voice whispers, “You’ll never be good at that.” And in the dark, you start to believe it.
But the moment the light switches on, the lies can’t stick anymore. You see yourself clearly. And what you see is the girl God created—unique, gifted, and filled with purpose.
That’s what happens when you stop letting the world define you and start believing what God has already said about you.
Now, let’s get practical. How do you live in that light?
Catch Comparison. When you start scrolling and the jealousy hits, pause. Remind yourself: “She’s her. I’m me. God didn’t make a mistake with me.”
Call Out the Truth. When a lie pops into your mind—“I’m not enough”—replace it with truth: “I am wonderfully made.”
Use Your Gifts With Gratitude. God gave you talents not to compete but to serve. If you can sing, sing. If you’re a good listener, listen. If you’re creative, create. When you use what you’ve been given with a grateful heart, it sets you free from comparison.
Part 4: Reflection + Storytelling (2 minutes)I want to tell you about a girl I met at a youth event. She told me that for years she thought her worth came from attention from guys. She went from relationship to relationship, and every time it ended, she felt like a piece of her was missing. She said, “I didn’t even know who I was anymore.”
But when she started reading what God says about her—that she’s chosen, loved, and never alone—something shifted. She told me, “For the first time, I feel like I can breathe. I don’t need someone else to tell me I matter. I already know I do.”
That’s the power of living in the light. Hurt and comparison get stripped away. You begin to walk as the girl God designed you to be all along.
Takeaway + Challenge (1 minute)So here’s your challenge this week:
Write down three truths from God’s Word about who you are.
Keep them on your phone, in your journal, or on sticky notes on your mirror.
And when comparison or insecurity creeps in, speak them over yourself. Out loud.
Don’t let the world tell you who you are. Let the One who made you define you.
Closing (1 minute)Girls, you were made for more than living in the dark. You were made for light, freedom, and love. Don’t settle for living below who you were created to be.
Thanks for hanging out with me today on the Faithful Chicks Podcast. Remember—you’re loved, you’re chosen, and you’re wonderfully made. Step into that truth this week, and watch how it changes the way you see yourself.
I’ll see you next time.
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