Put Your Identity in Christ- Beautiful Life Week 6
- Kelly Kirstein
- Jul 31, 2025
- 9 min read
Updated: Jan 5
What Does Identity In Christ Even Mean?
It's Just...Seeing Yourself the Way God Sees You
When we talk about “identity in Christ,” it can feel like one of those church phrases that sounds good but doesn’t always connect in real life. What does it actually mean to put your identity in Christ?
Think about it this way: God called you out of darkness into His marvelous light (1 Peter 2:9). Why? So you could see yourself clearly, not through the filter of social media, not through the lens of comparison, and not through the standards of the world, but the way He sees you. When you know who you are in Christ, you live free.
The danger comes when we start letting the wrong things define us. Talents, money, grades, popularity, appearance—none of these are bad, but they were never meant to be the foundation of your worth. When we let them become our identity, we end up on a rollercoaster of highs and lows, constantly comparing ourselves to others. Comparison is a trap that steals joy and blinds us to the unique gifts God has placed in us.
Instead, God invites us to see ourselves as He does: loved, chosen, and created with intention. He gives us gifts not so we can compete, but so we can serve Him with a grateful heart.
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Let's Do This Together: pgs. 55-63
This week, we’re going to press pause on comparison and competition. Instead, we’ll focus on recognizing the unique gifts God has given us and remembering that our true identity isn’t in what we do—it’s in who we belong to.
Here’s the truth: You can trust that God has created you with great value to allow you to do good things in this world. By choosing to connect with his heart and plans for you, you can be saturated with light and all the qualities of his kingdom.
How do you you begin? You already have!
Take time this week to lean into His Word and let it saturate your heart. Remind yourself that you are more than your achievements, your struggles, or your insecurities. You are His child.
Additional Notes & Thoughts: pg. 63
When you think about your identity, what are the first words that come to mind? Do they come from God or from the world?
What are some things you’ve been tempted to let define you (beauty, grades, friendships, social media likes, sports, etc.)? How have those things made you feel?
What gifts or talents has God given you? How can you use them to serve Him and others with a grateful heart instead of falling into comparison?
How might your life look different if you fully believed that your worth comes only from the one who created you?
Mental Health Minute:
Week 6: Unload (pg. 86)
1. Start Here. Hebrews 11:6 ESV
Take a deep breath. This week is about believing that God is who He says He is and that what He says about you matters more than what anyone else says.
2. Things I'm Grateful For
Write some phrases that God might use to describe you, including the gifts and talents He gave you.
3. Things to Work On In what ways do you compare yourself to other people?
4. Things I'm Proud Of
List ways you have chosen to do things God's way instead of people pleasing. How have you been able to cheer someone on rather than compete with them?
5. Doodle Space
Draw something that represents who you are to Jesus. Maybe a bright light, jewel, or warrior. Ask Holy Spirit to help you. What pictures come to mind?
6. Things to Let Go Of
Hand off to Jesus the harsh thoughts you have about yourself or hurts that seem to define you.
7. Prayers from the Heart
Write a prayer that thanks God for always seeing the best in you, even when you mess us. Share the things deep in your heart.
Final Thoughts
Living with your identity rooted in Christ doesn’t mean you stop caring about your dreams, talents, or goals. It simply means you understand they don’t define you.
Let His truth fill your heart and mind. He sees you as loved, chosen, and wonderfully made.
Comparison will always try to pull you back into darkness and chaos, but Christ has already called you into light. In Him, you can walk confidently, use your gifts with joy, and live free from the trap of needing the world’s approval.
This week, let’s challenge ourselves to stop looking sideways at others and start looking up to the One who made us and knows us best.
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Faithful Chicks Podcast Script
Theme: Seeing Yourself the Way God Sees You
Opening (1 minute)Hey girls, welcome back to the Faithful Chicks Podcast. I’m so glad you pressed play today, because this episode is one that every single one of us needs to hear. We’re going to talk about how you see yourself—and more importantly, how God sees you.
Because here’s the truth: most of us live way below who we were made to be. We settle. We compare. We believe lies about ourselves that hold us back. We do things that don't belong to us, thinking there is no way we can change it. This leads to feeling less than, powerless, and defeated.
But when you step into God’s light, and ask him how he sees you, it becomes easier to see clearly—and the girl you see looking back at you is way more valuable than you realize.
So let’s dig in.
Part 1: The Problem (2 minutes) Let me ask you this: how do you usually describe yourself? Be honest. Do the first words that pop into your head sound more like "meh,” “average,” or “just okay”?
For a lot of us, the way we see ourselves has been shaped by people’s opinions, what culture says, or even the mistakes we’ve made. Maybe a friend once left you out, and now you feel unwanted. Maybe your parents fight all the time, and you feel like you don’t matter. Maybe you scroll TikTok and think, “If only I looked like her.” You might even try to be someone else sometimes.
Comparison is exhausting. It’s like chasing something you’ll never catch. And here’s the trap: the more we compare, the more we start to believe that our value comes from things like beauty, grades, sports, popularity, or relationships.
When we try to measure up, there are always people who are better at whatever we are doing. Even if we get a win, the feeling only lasts for a short time and then we need to try to prove ourselves again.
And when those things fall apart, so does our confidence.
With every failure, anxiety rises.
Sometimes, instead of facing that pain, girls look for ways to cover it up—drinking at parties, trying drugs, hooking up with guys—because it gives a quick high, a temporary distraction. But the truth is, those choices don’t heal you. You might get attention for a little bit, but then there is pressure to perform the next time. You start to feel like you are only around so people get what they want.
That hurts you. It doesn't lift you up. Depression can start to pull you down even farther from the girl you were made to be.
Part 2: God’s Better Way (2 minutes) But here’s the good news: You can jump off of this crazy train because that’s not the life God designed for you.
Listen to this—Psalm 139:14 says, “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” That means God didn’t just throw you together. He thought through every detail of you on purpose.
Have you ever wondered why God put you together the way he did? Like what did he have in mind for your life? I bet it has to be good.
1 Peter 2:9 says you are “chosen.” Not overlooked. Not second best. Chosen.
Romans 8:38-39 reminds us that nothing—no mistake, no insecurity, no failure—can separate you from God’s love.
So even if you have messed up "Big Time" God can work through it all. Don't be afraid to let him.
When you choose to follow Jesus, it’s like stepping out of the dark into light. Suddenly, you see yourself the way God always has. Not as messed up. unworthy. Or just okay. But as loved, chosen, and highly valuable.
That’s the foundation. And when you live from that foundation, the pressure to prove yourself or compete with others starts to lose its power.
Part 3: Living in the Light (2–3 minutes)Now, I want you to imagine this: you’re in a dark room. There’s no mirror, no window, nothing. You’re stumbling around, trying to figure out who you are. You bump into things, you trip banging your knee, and some one tells you to go right. The next person says go the other way. You keep trying to do what they say, but just feel confused and angry. Another voice whispers, “You’ll never get out.” And in the dark, you start to believe it.
But the moment when you choose to switch the light on, you see that the door is right there. That those people were just entertaining themselves at your expense.
You see clearly the way to go.
That's what it is like you stay with Jesus and listen to him. You see the girl God created—unique, gifted, and filled with purpose. Partnering with Jesus you begin the greatest adventure of your life. All your emotions are there and sometimes you will still stumble, but he is the one that helps you up and dusts you off, encouraging you to keep going.
That is now you learn and grow.
That’s what happens when you stop letting the world define you and start believing what God has already said about you.
Now, let’s get practical. How do you live in that light?
Catch Comparison. When you start scrolling and the jealousy hits, pause. Remind yourself: “She’s her. I’m me. God didn’t make a mistake with me.”
Call Out the Truth. When a lie pops into your mind—“You're a failure”—replace it with truth: “I am wonderfully made.”
Use Your Gifts With Gratitude. God gave you talents not to compete but to serve and have some fun. If you can sing, sing. If you’re a good listener, listen. If you’re creative, create. When you use what you’ve been given with a grateful heart, it sets you free from comparison.
Part 4: Reflection + Storytelling (2 minutes) I want to tell you about a girl I met online. She was using drugs and sleeping with random guys for a thrill. “I didn’t even want to be here anymore.”
Looking at this sweet girl, I knew she was trying to escape all the hurt she had faced in her life. The drugs were an attempt to numb all the chaos inside. To feel happy for just a moment. The random sex, as an attempt to feel loved and comforted.
I didn't judge her. Or think she was a bad person. It actually hurt my heart. I wanted to hug her. To tell her that the answer to her pain and the healing she needed could be found through choosing Jesus and allowing Holy Spirit to renew and restore her broken heart.
Over the next few months as we talked, I explained that God could offer her a way to breathe again to feel free. I'm not talking about a bunch of religious junk that makes you feel terrible. I told her she had to connect with him for real. Let his presence fil her life.
She listened and was respectful. She asked me the hard questions. Like how could God let some of those terrible things happen to her. We talked through it all.
She would wander away, but then eventually come back and start talking to me again. After several years of wandering back to darkness, she finally had enough. She chose light. She found an organization that offered Christian mentoring, she went to rehab to get clean, and she is on the journey towards healing.
Layer by layer God can heal all the broken places in her. He loves her too much to leave her wounded and falling apart. It's a relief to see her make the choice to let God help her.
Takeaway + Challenge (1 minute)So here’s your challenge this week:
Write down three truths from God’s Word about who you are.
Keep them on your phone, in your journal, or on sticky notes on your mirror.
And when comparison or insecurity creeps in, speak them over yourself. Out loud.
Don’t let the world tell you who you are. Let the One who made you define you.
Closing (1 minute)Girls, you were made for more than living in the dark. You were made for light, freedom, and love. Don’t settle for living below who you were created to be.
Thanks for hanging out with me today on the Faithful Chicks Podcast. Remember—you’re loved, you’re chosen, and you’re wonderfully made. Step into that truth this week, and watch how it changes the way you see yourself.
I’ll see you next time.
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