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Living a Christian Lifestyle looks different than the majority of the world. If you're interested in learning about how to do things God's way, this post will help you get started. I don't share this to shame or judge you. Rather, I want you to know what the Bible teaches, then you can make your own choices.
A Few Things First To Help You Get Started:
Desiring Sexual Gratification is a normal part of life, for girls and guys, especially during teen years and young adulthood. It is a signal that you are ready to develop your understanding and boundaries for your budding sexuality.
Don't let your desires control you. These new feelings and emotions are part of the journey. You don't have to navigate this by yourself. There's nothing to be ashamed of. There are physical and emotional signs that may be unique to you. It will ebb and flow depending on what is happening with you emotionally.
Take time to learn about the way God designed sex, which leads to healthy sexuality. For sex to be safe, Love needs to be at the center of the relationship and a marriage covenant needs to surround the relationship for protection. It's not enough to love the person. God intended for sex to be shared inside covenant because there is a commitment to take care of each other that goes beyond feelings.
Want to know a SECRET? Christians that do things God's way are having the best sex. They discover deep connection and love within the boundaries of marriage; the way God designed sex. Learning to think about sex God's way takes some effort, but it worth it.
Warning: Porn may give you a high like drugs, but it will also damage you. Satan has a way of twisting up the things God created into selfish self-seeking acts. For sex to be safe, Love needs to be at the center of the relationship and a marriage covenant needs to surround the relationship for protection.
What Does the Bible Say About Sex?
Why should you care about what the Bible says about sex? There are lots of reasons. Here's one. In a society where more than 50% of marriages end in divorce, you can make choices that lead to a healthy heart, which can help you have a healthy marriage.
When you come into your marriage damaged from having lots of sexual partners, it can make it hard to find that deep connection with your husband that makes a marriage last.
Scripture about God's Will for Sex:
What Should I Do About My Thoughts?
Set Boundaries where you will allow your mind to go, especially related to the guy you are into. Your brain plays a role in your sexual response. You can learn to manage your sexual well being by what you know and believe about sex.
Recognize why you are feeling this way. It could be hormones, you are stressed, or you have allowed your thoughts to go in a sexual direction.
How to Stop. Listen to Christian Music. Exercise. Take A Cold Shower. Pray. Basically find something to get your mind off of sex.
Remember: God is the one that created sex. It's okay to talk to him about how you're feeling. He can handle it. Ask him to help you desire his will and plans for your life.
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