Established Worth & Purpose: Christian Identity for Teen Girls
- Kelly Kirstein
- 3 days ago
- 3 min read
Updated: 2 days ago
Hi! We are so glad you are here.
Your teen years will be a season full of questions.
Who am I? Do I matter? Am I enough?
If you’ve ever felt like your value goes up and down based on grades, friendships, sports, or how people treat you—you’re not alone. Many girls learn early (often without realizing it) that worth feels like something you have to prove.
But God tells a very different story.
The Truth...your worth and purpose were established by God before you ever did a single thing. When you understand that, it changes how you see yourself, how you treat others, and how you walk through life.
The World’s Way vs. God’s Way of Value
Imagine two jars.
Jar One: The World’s Way
This jar starts empty. The message is simple: you begin with nothing, and you earn your value.
Coins get added for things like:
Good grades
Doing well in sports or activities
Being noticed or liked
Looking a certain way
But coins also get taken out:
Failing a test
Making a mistake
Being left out
Losing a relationship or friendship
This creates an emotional roller coaster. One good day you feel confident. One bad moment and everything crashes.
Scripture warns us about this kind of pressure:
Living for approval is exhausting. It keeps you striving, comparing, and constantly wondering if you’re enough.
Jar Two: God’s Way
God’s jar starts full. That's the truth about your identity as a teen girl.
Before you were born, He already decided your value.
Your worth wasn’t earned. It was given.
Your gifts, passions, relationships, and opportunities don’t make you valuable—they flow from your value.
God establishes your worth. You spend your life discovering it.
Why Tearing Yourself Down Matters
The way you talk about yourself matters more than you think.
When you constantly criticize yourself, compare yourself, or tear yourself apart, you’re saying something untrue about something God created.
God doesn’t make mistakes.
Take a moment to listen to the song. Pray about the truths listed below.
Remember, God doesn’t take back what He put in you.
Your thoughts shape how you see yourself—and how you treat others. What have you been speaking about yourself?
If you wouldn’t say it about someone God loves, challenge yourself not to say it about yourself.
You Were Created With Purpose
God didn’t copy-paste people. He designed each person differently on purpose.
You weren’t meant to be someone else.
Comparison steals joy and confidence because you only ever see the part of someone’s life they choose to show.
God designed each of us to play a role in His story.
When you recognize your gifts and partner with the Holy Spirit, you can make a real difference in the world around you.
Your calling isn’t something you perform for God—it’s something you walk out with Him.
A Simple Challenge
This week, practice speaking life.
Speak life over yourself
Speak life over your friends
Speak life even when it feels awkward
Ask God to help you see yourself the way He sees you.
You are not behind. You are not missing something God forgot to give you. You are deeply loved, intentionally created, and invited into a beautiful life with Him.
You were created with worth. You were created with purpose. And the adventure of discovering that life with God is just beginning.
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