Advice About Your Crush and Letting Him Know You Like Him (Without Making It Weird)
- Kelly Kirstein
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So let’s say you’ve prayed, thought it through, and feel good about this crush.
Now what?
Here’s some advice about your crush to show interest in a healthy, confident, low‑pressure way.
Start With Conversation
This sounds obvious, but it matters.
Make an effort to talk to him when he’s around. Ask about:
His classes
His interests
What’s going on in his life
And pay attention.
Does he ask questions back? Does he seem interested in knowing you?
Interest should feel mutual, not forced.
Flirting (The Healthy Kind)
Flirting doesn’t mean being dramatic or fake.
It looks like:
Smiling
Laughing
Making eye contact
Giving genuine compliments
Then watch.
Does he flirt back? Does he treat you differently than other girls?
If he flirts with everyone, that’s a red flag, not a flex.
Be Yourself (Seriously)
Do not turn into a version of yourself you think he’ll like better.
You want him to like you, not a performance.
If he doesn’t like the real you, the relationship wouldn’t last anyway.
Let Him Lead
In healthy Christian relationships, the guy should take initiative.
You can show interest, but you don’t need to chase.
Let him:
Ask you to hang out
Plan a date
Be clear about his intentions
This protects your heart from mixed signals, friend‑zoning, or hookup situations.
Choose Low‑Pressure First Hangouts
Public + casual is the goal.
Great first hangout ideas:
Studying at the library
Grabbing fast food or coffee
Getting a fun drink (smoothies, boba, iced coffee)
Walking around a bookstore or Target
Attending a school game or event
Going to a group hangout with friends
If snaps turn sexual or conversations cross boundaries... be done. He’s telling you what he wants.
If You Can’t Be Comfortable, Pay Attention
Here’s a truth that saves a lot of heartache:
If you don’t feel comfortable talking to him, laughing with him, or being yourself around him. He’s probably not your guy.
Sometimes a crush is more fantasy than fit.
Ask yourself:
Do we actually like similar things?
Do I enjoy being around him?
Can I be confident and relaxed with him?
If you’re constantly staring at your phone, feeling awkward, or overthinking every move, that’s not peace.
Don’t Play Games
Waiting hours to reply. Trying to make him jealous. Acting hot and cold.
That’s exhausting and unnecessary.
If a guy is genuinely interested, he’ll be consistent.
If he’s not, it’s better to pray about moving on than chasing someone who isn’t invested.
Let Your Friends Help You See Clearly
Good friends provide perspective.
They can help you notice:
Whether he treats you with respect
Whether he makes you better
Whether you’re changing in unhealthy ways
Listen to them, especially if multiple friends are saying the same thing.
Final Encouragement
Having a crush can be fun and it can teach you a lot about yourself.
If he doesn’t like you back, that doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. It just means he wasn’t your guy.
If he is someone God intends for you to spend time with in this season, he’ll like you for who you are and want to be around you.
If not, invite the Holy Spirit into your emotions, let God continue shaping you, and keep growing.
Be confident. Be kind. Stick with Jesus.
He knows where He’s leading you.
Reflection & Prayer Questions
Use these questions to check in with your heart and invite God into how you’re handling your crush.
Am I being myself around him, or am I trying to impress him or earn his attention?
Do I feel comfortable, confident, and respected when we interact?
Is his interest clear and consistent, or confusing and hot-and-cold?
Am I letting him take healthy initiative, or am I chasing because I’m afraid of losing him?
Have any boundaries been crossed emotionally, digitally, or physically?
What do my close friends think about this situation, and am I willing to listen?
If this relationship never happens, do I trust that God’s plan for me is still good?
Prayer Prompt: Holy Spirit, help me walk in wisdom and confidence. Teach me to be genuine, patient, and kind, without settling for less than what honors You and protects my heart. If this is not for me, help me let go with peace. If it is, help me move forward with clarity. Amen.