Mentor Quick Start Guide: Just A Girl Who Loves Jesus Teen Bible Study
- Oct 13, 2024
- 12 min read
Updated: 3 days ago
Welcome to the Mentor Guide!
You don’t have to have all the answers.
You just have to be willing to ask God for help and to show up.
If God has placed a teen girl on your heart, that’s not random. This study is simply a tool to help you walk alongside her. You don't have to lead perfectly, but love her and point her to Jesus.
Mentor Quick Guide
Let's Do This!
Purchase Study Books
Tips to Build Your Group
1. Choose a place where you can consistently meet each week.
2. You don't need a big group. You can start with 3-5 girls.
A personal invitation is key. If you know one or two teen girls who would be interested in taking part in your group, ask them to invite some friends.
Contact moms you know with teen girls. Share with them what you are doing and invite their daughter.
Talk to your church to see if they will allow you pop into a teen Sunday School Class to invite girls to your study.
Girls rarely join something because they saw a post online. They join because someone they trust personally invited them.
2. Sample Messages
For Teen Girls You Know- “Hey, I’m starting a small group for teen girls where we’ll talk about life, faith, and how to build confidence in who God created us to be. It’s really relaxed—just snacks, conversation, and a short study. I thought of you and wondered if you might want to come.”
For Parents You Know- “Hi! I’m starting a small Bible study group for teen girls using a study called Just a Girl Who Loves Jesus. The goal is to help girls build confidence, talk about real life struggles, and learn what it means to follow Jesus. We’ll meet once a week for about an hour. I thought your daughter might enjoy it.”
Invitation for Girls Who Don't Believe in Jesus- “You don’t have to have everything figured out about faith to come. This is just a place where girls can talk about life and learn what the Bible says. You’re welcome to come and decide what you think.”
For Social Media- “I’m starting a small group for teen girls where we’ll talk about life, faith, and identity. It will be relaxed with snacks and conversation. If you’re interested or want more details, message me!”
3. Encourage girls to continue inviting girls.
Even if a girls misses weeks of the study, she will gain so much from being part of your group. Each week tell the girls, "It is never too late for a girl to join our group."
Purchase Study Books
Link to Just a Girl Who Loves Jesus
1. Purchase books for your whole group.
When a girl take a book, hand her a note with the cost.
Share with the group that you don't want the cost of the book to be a barrior. Local churches will often help cover the cost of a book if girls can't affort them.
2 Ask Girls to Purchase books on their own
If girls are asked to purchase books on their own, send out the link to the study before the first meeting.
You may want to purchase a couple of extra books in case some girls forget or are not able to get a book themselves.
What Your Role as a Mentor Looks Like
1. Keep It Simple
You don’t need to overcomplicate this.
Start with:
One girl or a small group (2–5 girls)
Meet once a week (or every other week)
30–60 minutes is enough
Consistency and care for the girls matters more than anything.
2. Create a Safe Space
Before anything else, she needs to feel:
Loved
Not lectured
Not “fixed”
This study is the place where she can hear about what God has to offer and the way believers try to think and live, as part of his family.
Let her be herself. God gives us the opportunity to choose him. He doesn't force anyone to do things his way.
Real change begins when she wants what Jesus has to offer.
3. Let the Study Do the Work
You don’t need all the answers. Lessons are provided for you on the weekly blog posts. You are the discussion host.
It's okay if you don't know the answer to their question. This is an opportunity to research it together. Or you can get back to them at your next meeting with your thoughts.
Just:
Read through the study together (or have her do it ahead of time)
Ask simple questions:
“What did you relate to?”
“Where do you see that at school or in everyday life?
How could you benefit from this idea?
Why is this hard?
Silence is okay. Give her time to think. If she doesn't have anything to say, just keep moving.
4. Focus on Relationship, Not Performance
Your goal is not to “get through the study.”
Your goal is:
Connection
Trust
Growth over time
If the conversation goes off track—but it’s meaningful—follow it. Let God lead because
that’s where the impact is.
5. When She Doesn’t Open Up
This is normal.
Try:
Sharing a little of your own story first
Keeping questions light and open-ended
Giving her time (trust builds slowly)
Even if she doesn’t say much, she’s still listening.
6. Pray Simply
You don’t need perfect words. If you are uncomfortable praying out loud, that is okay. Most people start out feeling uncomfortable.
At Chicks we take turns, instead of saying pass, they say, "Jesus," which is a powerful prayer.
Teach that there is power in the name of Jesus. As the weeks go on, encourage her to even say one sentence out loud.
As long as the prayers aren't in appropriate, let them pray about what they think of. I once had a girl thank God for tampons. It's what she thought of. We giggled and kept moving.
7. You Are Making a Bigger Impact Than You Think
She may not say it. You may not see it right away.
But your presence, your consistency, and your willingness to care are shaping her more than you realize.
Final Encouragement
Remember, you don’t have to be a Bible expert. You will likely learn as you help the girls. That's the beauty of serving others.
This mentor quick guide is just the start. Your are going to have so much fun serving Jesus.
How to Prepare for Each Week
A little preparation can help your group time feel smooth and meaningful. Don’t worry—this doesn’t have to take long. The goal is simply to come ready to guide the conversation and create a welcoming space for the girls.
1. Complete the Study for the Week
Before your group meets, take time to work through that week’s study yourself. This helps you understand the main ideas and think about what you hope the girls will take away. As you spend time with God through the study, you may also gain personal insights you can share during your discussion.
2. Pray for Your Girls
Before your meeting, take a few minutes to pray for the girls in your group. Ask God to help them feel safe, understood, and encouraged during your time together. Even a short prayer can help you lead with compassion and awareness of what the girls might be going through.
3. Look Over the Discussion Questions
Take a moment to read through the discussion questions before the meeting. You don’t need to prepare long explanations. Just be familiar with the questions so you can guide the conversation naturally.
4. Send a Reminder to Your Group
A quick reminder helps girls remember when you’re meeting and keeps everyone connected. You can send this through text, email, or a social media group. Whatever works best for your group. The key is to be consistent and use the same place each week so everyone knows where to look for updates.
5. Prepare Your Meeting Supplies
Before the meeting, set out any supplies you plan to use. This might include the Bible study books, journals, colored pencils, or other creative supplies. Having everything ready ahead of time helps the meeting start smoothly and keeps the focus on the girls.
6. Be Ready to Be Flexible
Some weeks the conversation may go exactly as planned, and other weeks the girls may want to talk about something happening in their lives. That’s okay. The goal isn’t to rush through every question but to create a space where girls can talk honestly and grow in their faith.
7. Consider a Weekly Worship Song (Optional)
If you’d like, you can introduce a Christian song each week. Playing a song before the study or sharing it with the girls afterward can encourage them to listen to Christian music throughout the week and keep their minds focused on God.
Helpful Tips for Leading Teen Girls
Leading teen girls can be a meaningful and rewarding experience, but there may be moments when you feel unsure about what to say or do. Remember, you are not expected to have all the answers.
Your role is simply to create a safe space where girls can learn about Jesus, ask questions, and grow in their faith.
Here are a few helpful tips for common situations you may encounter.
1. Creating a Respectful Group Environment
It is important that your group remains a safe and encouraging place for everyone.
Girls should always speak with kindness and respect when sharing.
This means:
No using names or situations that could feel like gossip about someone else.
No sharing stories that expose another person’s behavior or mistakes.
Girls should speak from their own experiences, rather than speaking about others in the group.
Setting this expectation early helps protect trust within the group and keeps conversations healthy and supportive.
Model the behavior you want to see. If you speak kindly, avoid gossip, and share honestly about your own experiences, the girls will naturally follow your example.
Leaders often underestimate how much tone-setting they do just by how they talk.
2. What if a girl doesn’t believe in Jesus?
That’s okay. Let her know you’re glad she is there. You can explain that during the study you will be talking about what it looks like to live a Christian life and follow Jesus, and she is welcome to listen and explore those ideas.
You do not need to convince her or debate her beliefs. Trust that God is working in her life. Simply create space for her to hear the truth and experience a caring, supportive environment.
Often God plants seeds through relationships and consistent encouragement.
3. What if the girls are quiet or don’t want to talk?
Silence is normal at first. Many girls need time to feel comfortable before sharing in a group.
Continue asking simple questions and giving them space to think. As trust grows, girls often begin opening up more naturally.
If girls seem hesitant to speak right away, you can give them a few minutes to write or draw their response in their books first. This helps them organize their thoughts and can make sharing feel less intimidating.
You can also try asking them to turn and talk with the person next to them for a minute before sharing with the whole group. This smaller conversation often helps girls feel more confident speaking when the discussion opens up to everyone.
4. What if a girl shares something heavy?
Sometimes girls may open up about painful experiences or difficult situations in their lives. In those moments, you do not need to have the perfect answer. The most important thing you can offer is compassion and a listening ear.
You may gently remind the group that harmful or abusive actions do not reflect the character of God.
While God is loving and good, people have free will, and sometimes they choose to do things that are outside of God’s will and cause harm to others.
If the girl would like to talk more, you can offer to continue the conversation privately at another time.
Important: If a girl shares that she is experiencing physical, sexual, or severe mental abuse, this must be reported to the appropriate authorities, such as Child Protective Services, according to your local laws and church policies.
If a girl shares that she is having suicidal thoughts, you should contact her parent or guardian immediately after the meeting so she can receive the support she needs.
What if a girl shares a belief that doesn’t align with the Bible?
Girls may sometimes express ideas or beliefs that do not line up with Scripture. When this happens, respond with kindness and clarity. You might say something like, “I understand that’s how you see it. The Bible teaches this…”
Your role is not to argue or pressure her to change her mind. Your role is simply to explain what God’s Word says and allow her to consider it. Over time, God can work through those truths in her heart.
What if a girl asks a question I don’t know how to answer?
This happens to every leader, and it is completely okay. No one expects you to know everything.
If a girl asks a question you’re unsure about, you can simply say, “That’s a great question. I’m not sure about the answer right now, but I will look into it and get back to you.”
You can also encourage the girls to search the Bible for verses related to the topic. If you still feel unsure, consider asking a pastor or a trusted Christian leader for guidance.
What a Typical Meeting Can Look Like
You don’t need a complicated plan to lead a meaningful group. A simple and welcoming rhythm works best.
1. Welcome & Connect (5–10 minutes) As girls arrive, offer a small snack and take time to talk about their week. This helps everyone relax and feel comfortable before beginning the study.
2. Watch the Weekly Teaching Video (5–10 minutes) Scan the QR Code at the beginning of each week, which will lead you to the weekly blog post that includes a short teaching video. Watch the video together to introduce the theme and key ideas for the study.
3. Discuss the Study Together (15–20 minutes) Some girls may arrive without completing the homework, and that’s okay. Let them know you’re glad they came. Choose a few questions or topics from the study and discuss them as a group.
4. Reflect & Apply (10 minutes) Use the reflection questions from the weekly blog post to help girls think more deeply about what they learned and how it applies to their lives.
5. Creative Reflection Time (Optional) Creative tools like colored pencils, twistable crayons, or washi tape can help girls feel relaxed and engaged. If you have extra time, allow them to draw in their books or work on the Kingdom Minded bonus pages in the back of the study.
Where to Find Weekly Videos and Reflection Questions
Each week of the Just a Girl Who Loves Jesus Bible Study includes additional resources to help you lead your group with confidence.
The easiest way to access these resources is by scanning the QR code at the beginning of each week in the study. The QR code will take you directly to that week’s leader resources, including:
The weekly teaching video
Reflection questions for discussion
Additional encouragement for mentors
These resources are designed to make leading simple and meaningful for both you and the girls in your group.
Access Through the Chicks Ministry App
You can also access all weekly resources through the Chicks Ministry App. The app makes it easy to find teaching videos, podcast episodes, and other helpful tools for growing in faith.
Weekly Links in One Place
If you prefer, you can also visit the “Just a Girl Who Loves Jesus Bible Study: Table of Contents” page on the website. This page includes links to every week of the study so you can easily navigate to the content you need.
How to Structure Your First Meeting
1. Make the Environment Feel Comfortable Immediately
When girls walk in, they should see something that feels warm and welcoming.
Simple things work best:
snacks on the table
colored pens or supplies out
upbeat Christian music playing
a relaxed seating space
You’re communicating: “This is a safe place to be yourself.”
Teen girls notice the environment instantly.
2. Start With Easy Conversation
Instead of jumping into teaching, start with something light. It's time to get to know each other.
Examples:
What was the best part of your week?
If you could travel anywhere, where would you go?
What’s your favorite snack or drink?
This helps girls relax and hear each other’s voices.
Many girls feel nervous speaking the first time. Easy questions remove that pressure.
3. Share the Heart of the Group
This should be short, taking maybe two or three minutes.
Something like:
“This group is just a place where girls can talk about real life and learn what the Bible says about who we are and how God cares about us. You don’t have to have everything figured out about faith to be here.”
That statement does two things:
sets expectations
removes pressure
4. Do One Short Meaningful Activity
Instead of diving deep into the study, do something that sparks reflection.
For example:
Ask the girls to write or draw answers to a prompt like:
“One thing people might not know about me”
“One thing I wish people understood about girls my age”
“One thing I hope my future looks like”
Girls often share more honestly when they write or draw first.
This creates meaningful conversation quickly.
5. End With Curiosity
This is the key part.
Before everyone leaves, say something like:
“Next week we’re going to talk about something that almost every girl struggles with feeling loved and valuable."
Now the girls are curious.
Curiosity is what makes them think:
“My friend would like this.”
6. Give Permission to Invite Friends
Right before they leave, casually say:
“You are always welcome to bring a friend if you think she would enjoy being here.”
That’s it. No pressure.
But now girls have something safe and interesting to invite their friends to.
Why This Works
Teen girls are constantly evaluating three things when they try something new:
Do I feel safe here?
Do these people actually care about me?
Is this interesting enough to come back?
When those three boxes are checked, groups grow naturally.
One of my favorite parts of leading Bible studies is creating space that feels fun, welcoming, and memorable for girls. I put together an Amazon list of the supplies I love using with groups.
Is you're starting a study, feel free to browse my ideas.
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