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S1 E9 Dealing with Rejection: He Doesn't Feel the Same Way

Dealing with Rejection is Painful

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I cared for this guy deeply. Until two weeks ago, he messaged me all the time. It seemed like he felt the same way until he ghosted me. Now I feel sick all the time.

We met up the other night and things seemed fine. He even kissed me. In the middle of hanging out, he said he had to go. When I asked him about it, he said that I am too clingy. He just needs some space. Why do guys give up on relationships so easily? I thought he loved me, but not anymore.

Have you ever liked a guy, but he didn't like you back? Painful...right?

How did it feel when the guy liked someone else?

What happened to your heart when you loved him, and he didn't love you back?

Young Woman feeling hurt


Is he sending mixed signals?

Are you having a hard time deciphering his mixed signals? Does it feel like you are always initiating meet-ups?

If the answer is 'yes', then it is time to think through your relationship. Sometimes you need to step back to decide if a guy is into you. Take time to decode the message his actions are telling you.

5 Signs He Isn't Into You

  1. He rarely initiates hanging out. If he rarely takes the initiative to hang out with you, it is a clear sign his heart is not in it. When a guy likes you, he wants to spend time with you and make an effort to ensure it happens.

  2. You feel confused by his mixed signals One moment he's sweet and attentive, and the next he is distant and doesn't respond. These types of mixed signals can leave you on an emotional roller coaster. His inconsistency can be a sign that he's not invested in the relationship. You deserve a guy who is consistent in his actions and words.

  3. He avoids physical touch. Or only touches you to get something from you. Physical touch is an important part of building a romantic relationship. A brush of your skin or holding your hand demonstrates physical attraction and a desire for connection. He should want to be close to you. If the only type of affection he gives you is through initiating sexual activity, this can be a sign he is using you. Late-night calls to hook up are not showing you he is interested in a relationship with you. It's an indicator he is pursuing sex, rather than you.

  4. You express your feelings, but he doesn't reciprocate. You allow yourself to be vulnerable and express your feelings for him, but it never seems to be reciprocated. One-sided emotional investment is a red flag. It is normal for one person to develop feelings first. If the other person doesn't follow within a short time, then it would be wise to move on. If he avoids discussing feelings, it could indicate he doesn't feel the same. It is important to be in a relationship where both people are emotionally invested.

  5. He doesn't ask about you or your life. A guy who truly cares will show genuine interest in your life. He will want to know about your day, your interests, your dreams, and your fears. If he doesn't seem interested in knowing these things, it may be because he doesn't see a future with you.

While these signs are not definitive proof that he's not into you, they should raise some red flags. It's essential to communicate openly about your concerns and see if things change. If they don't, it might be time to move on to someone who truly appreciates and values you. Remember, the right person will make you a priority, not an option.

How to Move On

Unless you are the exception to the dating norm, you probably won't find your forever guy the first time you fall in love. This means there is a high likelihood that you are going to like someone more than they like you. While it hurts when that happens, you can't make someone love you or even care about you. Maybe he's not ready. Or maybe God has other plans.

If someone doesn't like you back, that's your indicator that he's not the one for you. It may be hard to wrap your mind around this idea as you deal with the pain of rejection. A few weeks or even months from now, with help from Jesus, you will realize he didn't fit with you.

The Truth: God Loves You

  • "We love because He first loved us." 1 John 4:19

  •  "For God so loved the world, that He gave His only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish, but have eternal life." John 3:16

  •  "And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is." Ephesians 3:18

Take some time with Jesus to work through the hurt and pain. Even if you never officially dated the guy, the feelings you have are still real. Take time to process the hurt and pain.

Need Help Getting Started? Check out this article.


A Little Heartbreak Humor to Help You Heal

Top 10 Christian Breakup Songs-

10. Kiss me … goodbye.

9. Stomp … yourself on out of here.

8. I lift my hands … and wave goodbye.

7. I can play the background … and you can play the solo.

6. Dare you to move … far away from me.

5. I can only imagine … dating you after today.

4. Mary did you know … that I don’t like you anymore?

3. 10,000 reasons … I’m dumping you.

2. Who am I … not your girlfriend anymore.

1. Friends are friends forever … and that’s all we are.

Worship Song to Help You Heal

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